I do understand & just imagine how you feel with just your four kids & multiply that times three siblings, their children & your parents. And you do take care of your parents as much as we let you right now. For my part in that I’m sorry. Life used to be easier until everybody gets older. This is unfortunate & as is said “youth is wasted on the young.” I commiserate but steady praying. Don’t lose faith.
You my love are who I think of when I have to “mom” on when I’m feeling so weak and tired and emotionally drained. I am honored that you are apart of my village.
Weary… I feel you 1000% and I stand in solidarity with you in this struggle of wishing we could just pop them in eggs and shut the eggs and sit on them like grown chickens until we are ready for them to hatch all over again….. life for me ain’t no crystal stairs…
Yet, we still have stairs and eventually we get to walk up them and look back. We will come to the time when we are grateful that we found our way to rise up to the next landing.
And then come the grandchildren. For some ironic reason you almost feel as though you could love them more than your children . And then you realize that the episode of tired is never ending just like your love is never ending . For all flesh of your flesh is sacred unto the God who loves you so much that he just put up with all your stuff all this time and continued to love you with great magnitude. Why he even gave you those beautiful children that make your life worth living and doesn’t mind when you get tired . Cause he is always there to listen and give you the energy to press on so that you can be the mark that sets a great impression for them to strive and you leave a Mark on there hearts that says be tired but press on to greatness. So you realize you really are never to tired.
Love you always
Aunt NuNu
Sigh! It’s over when you can no longer “forgive” , when arguments are longer and meaner. I think for me I was still “in it” before I admitted to myself it was over. Once I realized I was hanging on to something that was no longer bring me joy or love I was READY and NEEDED to be alone. Being alone wasnt easy but it was needed to figure out who i am and what I want for my life. I never forgot who this person was to me but it took a looonnggg minute before i was ready to remember the good and not “sit” in the bad things. For me when it was over I was an angry petty person but once I started healing I remembered the BOMB ASS Woman i was before the anger took over my life.
I can say today (2 years later) that i am grateful for all the good, bad and ugly because it was something i needed for some reason. These SHIPS are alot of work but if you arent the only one working its worth it…
I love love love love this post… I think we focus so much on what WE are feeling that we dont think about what the other is feeling and what has changed for them. I love the different point of views and that sometimes LIFE changes us but we can fight to keep what pulled us together in the first place BEFORE it is all over. *snap snap snap*
This is perfect timing!!! I think in some cases, the trip simply changes. If you are aware enough to realize it’s not going at the speed or destination you want, you can mutually get off and try that trip again later with no bad feelings. It’s the confidence to change the relationship into something that will work instead of holding on just to hold on. If you feel lighter and more free after making that decision, it was the right one for you!
We’re required to endure way more than we ever thought during these challenging times. Keep an attitude of gratitude to get you through. I know easier said than done, but it helps you to focus on the positives. 😉
You did a wonderful job with her and she was and is listening. She will be alright. She knows YOU got her back, front and side but she also knows she can DO this.
Omg Li, so vulnerable and so real. Im over here balling my eyes out. You did an amazing job, I pray your daughter has a safe and amazing college experience ???
Honestly you have to KNOW your children. One may need a soft place to land for a little while to regroup & get back out there. One may need a little longer to set a plan for success & then there may be the one who says fork it I’m never leaving g home again now then you’ll have to go all the way back to the drawing board because this is your child who didn’t listen & thought life was simple & you just go get what you want even without resources things just magically appear to/for them and life will be good as soon as I tell mom/dad what it is that I need/want. Piece of cake but no because you e been telling all who listen that you’re grown so guess what be grown. Carry it out on your own. Amen
Life’s burdens definitely could weigh on your life heavy. As you said, sometimes its good to just disconnect, re-center, refocus yourself. One thing we know is life will never stop happening, just how we react to it is how we press on.
You know being the little brother, I have no defense in this matter. I did hit you with my left hand but only once. I knew that if mom found out I raised my hand to you I was gonna get it. However, I had to stand on family lesson taught, don’t let nobody hit you in the face. Unfortunately that did not work out so well for me because you did raise the bar that I could not elevate for fear of parent repercussion. As for you and Trev fighting I remember that day, and I was like I’m going outside before dad gets home so I have plausible deniability. I ain’t snitching though because I knew they had to go to work the next day then I would have to fight the both of you. Side note to this day there has never been a hideaway couch in my house.
You know, when I think back on this day I always wonder where the heck you were and why didn’t you help keep him from trying to kill me! I must’ve done something to you recently and you wanted me to die
As her older brother I must confirm this entire encounter. Let it be known that if anyone even decided to bring harm to my sister. They most definitely would have had an encounter with me. I love you sis and always will.
I’m telling you, that fear factor is something! Turns out that later down the line and by the time we all left the house, the patch fell off and the hole was revealed and my dad never knew what happened until today!
As your mom, I’m glad you learned there would be consequences for bad behavior & especially the wrath of your parents for fighting each other!! You’ve learned to love & rely on your sibling. Best outcome ever in my opinion. 💕
Whelp again I didn’t have to go at the time so I just stood at the stall. The whole reason for the bad trajectory was I couldn’t get my pants undone and the hole in the bottle was tiny. If it makes you feel any better my whole Air Force career as a cop I never shot anything less than expert.
Move through the pain!! Don’t repeat the cycle!! I love it!
I felt like the first 4 paragraphs was talking about me. i be feeling that same exact way
Jay, hopefully there is comfort in knowing you’re not alone.
I think we’ve all been here before! You’ve put our feelings into words…Absolutely love it! I might need this on Audible lol
I actually read it out loud to some friends last weekend. I have to practice reading my own work aloud, but it did make me think of recording them.
Loved it! Wish I could put feelings into words like you do….
A…MAY..ZING!!!
Excellent read! Without a doubt, I should talk to myself more often,
Well I’ll be *clutches pearls* … this feels like its a part one of many more to come…
Post Traumatic Sex Disorder!!!!!!!!!!!
When you find the cure share it with the class….
I do understand & just imagine how you feel with just your four kids & multiply that times three siblings, their children & your parents. And you do take care of your parents as much as we let you right now. For my part in that I’m sorry. Life used to be easier until everybody gets older. This is unfortunate & as is said “youth is wasted on the young.” I commiserate but steady praying. Don’t lose faith.
Faith not lost, just weary
You’re doing such a great job at being mom! I love your ability to push through the toughest challenges. You make it look so easy. Love you ?
Lady your writing is so amazing!! The whole time I’m like “GIRL….you betta tell it!”
Thank you, Cheley. Thoughts aren’t always positive and pretty but all I know how to do is speak to my true experience/feelings.
You my love are who I think of when I have to “mom” on when I’m feeling so weak and tired and emotionally drained. I am honored that you are apart of my village.
Thank you. I hope my expressions help you feel and know you’re not alone.
Weary… I feel you 1000% and I stand in solidarity with you in this struggle of wishing we could just pop them in eggs and shut the eggs and sit on them like grown chickens until we are ready for them to hatch all over again….. life for me ain’t no crystal stairs…
Yet, we still have stairs and eventually we get to walk up them and look back. We will come to the time when we are grateful that we found our way to rise up to the next landing.
And then come the grandchildren. For some ironic reason you almost feel as though you could love them more than your children . And then you realize that the episode of tired is never ending just like your love is never ending . For all flesh of your flesh is sacred unto the God who loves you so much that he just put up with all your stuff all this time and continued to love you with great magnitude. Why he even gave you those beautiful children that make your life worth living and doesn’t mind when you get tired . Cause he is always there to listen and give you the energy to press on so that you can be the mark that sets a great impression for them to strive and you leave a Mark on there hearts that says be tired but press on to greatness. So you realize you really are never to tired.
Love you always
Aunt NuNu
“Be encouraged.” Thank you,my aunt NuNu!
Strike, Strike, Strike!
Sigh! It’s over when you can no longer “forgive” , when arguments are longer and meaner. I think for me I was still “in it” before I admitted to myself it was over. Once I realized I was hanging on to something that was no longer bring me joy or love I was READY and NEEDED to be alone. Being alone wasnt easy but it was needed to figure out who i am and what I want for my life. I never forgot who this person was to me but it took a looonnggg minute before i was ready to remember the good and not “sit” in the bad things. For me when it was over I was an angry petty person but once I started healing I remembered the BOMB ASS Woman i was before the anger took over my life.
I can say today (2 years later) that i am grateful for all the good, bad and ugly because it was something i needed for some reason. These SHIPS are alot of work but if you arent the only one working its worth it…
I love love love love this post… I think we focus so much on what WE are feeling that we dont think about what the other is feeling and what has changed for them. I love the different point of views and that sometimes LIFE changes us but we can fight to keep what pulled us together in the first place BEFORE it is all over. *snap snap snap*
This is perfect timing!!! I think in some cases, the trip simply changes. If you are aware enough to realize it’s not going at the speed or destination you want, you can mutually get off and try that trip again later with no bad feelings. It’s the confidence to change the relationship into something that will work instead of holding on just to hold on. If you feel lighter and more free after making that decision, it was the right one for you!
When I aint hungry the whole family aint hungry…. Lets FAST!!!!!!!!
Good start Daughter. I love it!! Keep going…
??????????
❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’ll keep praying and that’ll continue to add an extra layer of glue. Something Gorilla Glue…those tears can’t penetrate this one. Love you, Li ?
We’re required to endure way more than we ever thought during these challenging times. Keep an attitude of gratitude to get you through. I know easier said than done, but it helps you to focus on the positives. 😉
Super proud of you…
Oh she may be weary
Them young girls they do get weary
But when she gets weary
Try a little tenderness
All you got to do is, man, hold her when you wanna
Squeeze her, don’t tease her, never leave her
You get me so well!
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I to am thankful for the basics in a time when everything else is out of our control and continues to move us as it wants.
Mother’s Day should be year round cause WE KICK ASS.
My word Daughter, you speak for the very soul of us mothers! A wonderful piece of understanding. Love you
Whew! Where are the rest of the pages to this best seller? Chants We want more! We want more!
I could see the ocean as I read. Very moving.
You did a wonderful job with her and she was and is listening. She will be alright. She knows YOU got her back, front and side but she also knows she can DO this.
Omg Li, so vulnerable and so real. Im over here balling my eyes out. You did an amazing job, I pray your daughter has a safe and amazing college experience ???
Omg that is so beautiful. And tell that goddaughter to mind hers. Color on mama, color on…
Honestly you have to KNOW your children. One may need a soft place to land for a little while to regroup & get back out there. One may need a little longer to set a plan for success & then there may be the one who says fork it I’m never leaving g home again now then you’ll have to go all the way back to the drawing board because this is your child who didn’t listen & thought life was simple & you just go get what you want even without resources things just magically appear to/for them and life will be good as soon as I tell mom/dad what it is that I need/want. Piece of cake but no because you e been telling all who listen that you’re grown so guess what be grown. Carry it out on your own. Amen
I am a mosiac!
And beautifully made!
❤️❤️❤️
Yes!
I went through so many emotions reading this! I felt like I was there with you! (Glad I wasn’t!) 😂
I mean if I was thinking it, I know you would’ve said F this and walked out.
Daughter, I’m with nephew…you’ve just showed us you can do it even if your head thinks otherwise 🤣🤣🤣
You would say that 😒
You took me on a wild ride this post! I felt like I was in the gym with you. I’m so glad you survived that torture. I know your body thanks you though
Ugh I hate peopling….
I wanted to throw up! I just finished the first meeting of the day. One more to go…
You know we got you mama! 😊
LOL 😂 I’m so proud of you! When you fall down, you get back up again. That’s a battle that’s winnable!!! You go daughter!!!
I commend your effort!!! I know I’d have been like, not today, catch you on the flip side!!
😆 thank you!
Life’s burdens definitely could weigh on your life heavy. As you said, sometimes its good to just disconnect, re-center, refocus yourself. One thing we know is life will never stop happening, just how we react to it is how we press on.
I can so relate! Just know you are not alone. 😅 FYI. I have a standing wax appointment, as I too nearly died when mine were discovered. 😉
Oh my daughter 🤣😂🤣 you bring me such joy!! TTYL
Later!!🤣
Well you’re not alone. Im 43 and came across one recently. I thought I was tripping 😒 Waxing is the best 🤗
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God bless you and your family during this time. This was a beautiful post! I love you my sister friend.
Awww Li…what a great piece. Sending you and the family our love and prayers. 🙏🏾
This truly was a real woman in every way! A servant of the Most High in every single way! I love her so much for showing me so much!!!
Thank you for sharing. A celebration of life well spent loving thy neighbor and demonstrating love. God bless and prayers to you and family
This right here is all facts. Love you sis lil brother felt this in every way!
I definitely know the feeling, I am still in the bed as we speak!! LoL
I envy you!
Ahhh… the joy of SLEEP! 🙌🏿
The struggle is real.
As mom would say don’t forget to make your bed. As big brother would say Why? I’m just going to get back in it.
😄
You know being the little brother, I have no defense in this matter. I did hit you with my left hand but only once. I knew that if mom found out I raised my hand to you I was gonna get it. However, I had to stand on family lesson taught, don’t let nobody hit you in the face. Unfortunately that did not work out so well for me because you did raise the bar that I could not elevate for fear of parent repercussion. As for you and Trev fighting I remember that day, and I was like I’m going outside before dad gets home so I have plausible deniability. I ain’t snitching though because I knew they had to go to work the next day then I would have to fight the both of you. Side note to this day there has never been a hideaway couch in my house.
You know, when I think back on this day I always wonder where the heck you were and why didn’t you help keep him from trying to kill me! I must’ve done something to you recently and you wanted me to die
Nah not that time you know me and the fear I had of any kind of conflict. I was ghost immediately after I heard the door break.
As her older brother I must confirm this entire encounter. Let it be known that if anyone even decided to bring harm to my sister. They most definitely would have had an encounter with me. I love you sis and always will.
Seconded
I love you too, big brother!
This was wild! Lol! How yall repair a whole door? Lololol
I’m telling you, that fear factor is something! Turns out that later down the line and by the time we all left the house, the patch fell off and the hole was revealed and my dad never knew what happened until today!
😂🤣😂🤣😂
As your mom, I’m glad you learned there would be consequences for bad behavior & especially the wrath of your parents for fighting each other!! You’ve learned to love & rely on your sibling. Best outcome ever in my opinion. 💕
For every post, I end with a smile!!!! I’m glad you got your kicks in with your brothers. I wish I had gotten in more with mine 😖
Toooo funny!
I need one of them laundry snacks myself! Guess I gotta BE a laundry snack b4 I GET one! 😂
Whelp again I didn’t have to go at the time so I just stood at the stall. The whole reason for the bad trajectory was I couldn’t get my pants undone and the hole in the bottle was tiny. If it makes you feel any better my whole Air Force career as a cop I never shot anything less than expert.
No, it does not make me feel any better!
You’re getting there!
Thank you, I’m trying!
Love it
Amen!!
Agreed 100%
Amen!!
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It’s truly essential to laugh while living. It’s what eases pain & gets you thru the hardest of times. Amen 🙏🏽
Yessssss!!
Third day in a row I read this!🤞🏾✨
Yes indeed!