When you take a ride on a relation ship there are many experiences and different ways to define The L Word. But, when that trip has come to an end what are some ways you know it’s done? Are you prepared to be alone? Will you forget all the things that they were to you? Do you take the time to remember who they were to you and more importantly, will both of you think before making a decision and ask of one another, Who are you when it’s over?
What’s your Reaction?
+1
+1
+1
+1
+1
+1
+1
Sigh! It’s over when you can no longer “forgive” , when arguments are longer and meaner. I think for me I was still “in it” before I admitted to myself it was over. Once I realized I was hanging on to something that was no longer bring me joy or love I was READY and NEEDED to be alone. Being alone wasnt easy but it was needed to figure out who i am and what I want for my life. I never forgot who this person was to me but it took a looonnggg minute before i was ready to remember the good and not “sit” in the bad things. For me when it was over I was an angry petty person but once I started healing I remembered the BOMB ASS Woman i was before the anger took over my life.
I can say today (2 years later) that i am grateful for all the good, bad and ugly because it was something i needed for some reason. These SHIPS are alot of work but if you arent the only one working its worth it…
This is perfect timing!!! I think in some cases, the trip simply changes. If you are aware enough to realize it’s not going at the speed or destination you want, you can mutually get off and try that trip again later with no bad feelings. It’s the confidence to change the relationship into something that will work instead of holding on just to hold on. If you feel lighter and more free after making that decision, it was the right one for you!